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Sunday 9 September 2012
Jumper bag!!
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Tuesday 24 July 2012
Friday 6 July 2012
TitShirt
I've had some funny looks when I'm wearing it haha
Tuesday 26 June 2012
Hey, it's OK.....
Short and sweet and sure made me smile :-)
Monday 4 June 2012
Grazia feedback "Can we ever forgive domestic violence"
I read this article in this weeks Grazia which inspired me to send some feedback which I would like to post on my blog page. I'm sure some willo find it controvercial but ever the outspoken woman I will share my opinions anyway and show my appreciation that we live in a world where different individuals can have their difference's of opinions and still live happily alongside each other. I do love a god debate or two, or three or four hahaha:......
I'd like to give my controversial opinion on this weeks conversation "can you ever forgive domestic violence?" I don't agree with violence from men but as a psychologist I can attempt to understand!
Any behaviour is learned or programmed and when someone has an undesirable behaviour in order to halt it the behaviour has to be unlearned or past issues and influences need to be addressed by a professional!
I guess many would say I am not in a position to be opinionated as I have never suffered domestic violence but I am strong minded in that I am solid in my belief that if I ever did I would be out of the door straight away, the same way as when I discovered an ex had cheated on me then the relationship was swiftly brought to an end. In the same case as girls who's guys cheat on them and they take them back again and again and he cheats again and again what message is she sending to the cheater "it's ok to cheat on me because I will take you back" I can understand giving anyone a second chance but a third, fourth, fifth and so on is inviting trouble. My controversial opinion is that the same goes for violence in relationships, if they can get away with it once their patterns of behaviour are okayed and they possess no real desire to change, why would they?
Women who stay in violent relationships can be accused of being as much to blame as the violent men and in affect in need of professional help also to address the past and internal influences that warrant their own reasoning in staying and being subjected to such treatment. What psychological issues tell them they deserve what they allow to happen to them again and again? I have whitnessed numerous times a good few friends who have suffered violent relationships, who are still in the relationship over ten years down the line. Their guys are not as violent physically but their anger at times still remains and my concern is the affect it could have on the children in the relationship!
I'd like to give my controversial opinion on this weeks conversation "can you ever forgive domestic violence?" I don't agree with violence from men but as a psychologist I can attempt to understand!
Any behaviour is learned or programmed and when someone has an undesirable behaviour in order to halt it the behaviour has to be unlearned or past issues and influences need to be addressed by a professional!
I guess many would say I am not in a position to be opinionated as I have never suffered domestic violence but I am strong minded in that I am solid in my belief that if I ever did I would be out of the door straight away, the same way as when I discovered an ex had cheated on me then the relationship was swiftly brought to an end. In the same case as girls who's guys cheat on them and they take them back again and again and he cheats again and again what message is she sending to the cheater "it's ok to cheat on me because I will take you back" I can understand giving anyone a second chance but a third, fourth, fifth and so on is inviting trouble. My controversial opinion is that the same goes for violence in relationships, if they can get away with it once their patterns of behaviour are okayed and they possess no real desire to change, why would they?
Women who stay in violent relationships can be accused of being as much to blame as the violent men and in affect in need of professional help also to address the past and internal influences that warrant their own reasoning in staying and being subjected to such treatment. What psychological issues tell them they deserve what they allow to happen to them again and again? I have whitnessed numerous times a good few friends who have suffered violent relationships, who are still in the relationship over ten years down the line. Their guys are not as violent physically but their anger at times still remains and my concern is the affect it could have on the children in the relationship!
I think Rihanna did the best thing she could have done at the time and the public judgement I imagine was hugely influential and I'm wondering if in normal circumstances she may have taken him back at the time had it not been for the media pressure. I think Chris has learned a huge lesson, most violent men hide their sins in silence with the abused women lying and hiding the real reasons for their cuts and bruises. If their behaviour had been outed for all to see perhaps they would see the error of their ways sooner, be shamed and shocked into a change in their learned behaviour pattern.
Only Rihanna and Chris know the full extent of what brought him to his outburst and if so long down the line Rihanna can forgive him then I would say who are we to judge!
Let and let live I say, maybe she can forgive but she will never forget, neither of them can because there's a whole lot of opinionated people out there busy enough to not allow it!!
Thursday 31 May 2012
Sticks and Stones!
We all live our lives through a cloud of hate,
From others whom determine our fate.
Or that's what we have been lead to believe,
When in reality it is OURS to perceive.
For that which we choose to see and to hear,
Is simply manufactured through our very own fear.
Fear of non acceptance, fear of not fitting in
To a society of control, our place in it to win.
Yet who we are and how we behave
Is that which would be written upon our grave.
She was a mother, writer, poet and friend,
We are simply a product of whom WE intend.
And any cruel judgements, criticisms, insults and lies
Are only as true as the tears that she cries.
So choose not to shed them, refuse to surrender,
For we can but only be that which WE render!
I am who I am and I am not what THEY think,
My courage and good heart shall never sink.
The echoes of their negativities I will suffer no longer,
As that which doesn't kill me will only maker me stronger!!!
Missing the beauty!!
And so here we are, existing, working on life's treadmill to earn money to sustain life's demands.
Bills to pay, a roof over our heads, clothes on our back, food on our plates. Collecting necessities that require our maintenance! Our heads filled With the constant worry and concern of getting by, scraping through on what we have been programmed to believe is our purpose, to keep the cup of societies glass topped up.
No time to stop, the kids need to be dropped off to school.
No time to stop, grocery shopping needs to be done.
No time to stop, need to be on time for work. Slugging away, grinding, superficially entertaining egotistical mangers or colleagues!
Then it's home time and the train is filled with an array of similar characters all with their own story, feeling their own misery having been on the same treadmill as us all that day. No wonder there is nothing but miserable faces on the tube, silence and not a slight of eye contact or generous gesture. All wanting to get home as stead fast as they can.
At home awaits them bills to sort out, dinner to cook, and the kids to tend to, and as we do our heads are pre-occupied mulling over the list of other things that need out attention.
The soaps we watch of other miserable souls suffering worse than we and in that moment we escape our own misery as we are hypnotised by the television media as seeing others new miserable lives, even if we know they are fictional make us for that moment feel better about our own.
No time to stop, grocery shopping needs to be done.
No time to stop, need to be on time for work. Slugging away, grinding, superficially entertaining egotistical mangers or colleagues!
Then it's home time and the train is filled with an array of similar characters all with their own story, feeling their own misery having been on the same treadmill as us all that day. No wonder there is nothing but miserable faces on the tube, silence and not a slight of eye contact or generous gesture. All wanting to get home as stead fast as they can.
At home awaits them bills to sort out, dinner to cook, and the kids to tend to, and as we do our heads are pre-occupied mulling over the list of other things that need out attention.
The soaps we watch of other miserable souls suffering worse than we and in that moment we escape our own misery as we are hypnotised by the television media as seeing others new miserable lives, even if we know they are fictional make us for that moment feel better about our own.
This is our life, chugging along, working to make ends meet, striving to survive.
This is our life, heads filled with noise muttering away at us and reminding us of what we need to do and where we need to go.
This is our life, heads filled with noise muttering away at us and reminding us of what we need to do and where we need to go.
This is our life!!
or is it??
Is this all there is?
Or are we just asleep??
With all that clutter distracting us how easy is it to miss what is right in front of us?
A beautiful blue sky with white puffs of clouds floating by,
a glowing sunset tinging the sky to pink,
a glorious view with meadows and trees,
a smile on someone's face,
a child's laughter! all are beauty, all are now, all are missed as we are pre-occupied with what we consider life's necessities when in reality it is society's necessities.
or is it??
Is this all there is?
Or are we just asleep??
With all that clutter distracting us how easy is it to miss what is right in front of us?
A beautiful blue sky with white puffs of clouds floating by,
a glowing sunset tinging the sky to pink,
a glorious view with meadows and trees,
a smile on someone's face,
a child's laughter! all are beauty, all are now, all are missed as we are pre-occupied with what we consider life's necessities when in reality it is society's necessities.
It is necessary for us to purchase the latest flat screen tv, to be addicted to alcohol and tobacco because then they get richer as the taxes get aid.
We are nothing but ants, soldering on, controlled and guided to whichever direction they choose. They are so good at it we don't even know it. Media and adverts manipulate us to believe we will be better people, more successful, more liked and happier if we buy this car, wear these clothes and live in this house, have this amount of money.
Everyone around us has been hypnotised to think the same so we are surrounded by those who fuel societies control.
We are nothing but ants, soldering on, controlled and guided to whichever direction they choose. They are so good at it we don't even know it. Media and adverts manipulate us to believe we will be better people, more successful, more liked and happier if we buy this car, wear these clothes and live in this house, have this amount of money.
Everyone around us has been hypnotised to think the same so we are surrounded by those who fuel societies control.
We are missing it all, we need to wake up!
Beauty and happiness is not in the destination, it's not in your possessions or what others think of you it's here, it's now!!
If only you open your eyes and see it.
Stop for a second and breath, inhale the beauty of what you already have, your life, your health!
Beauty and happiness is not in the destination, it's not in your possessions or what others think of you it's here, it's now!!
If only you open your eyes and see it.
Stop for a second and breath, inhale the beauty of what you already have, your life, your health!
Find beauty where others pass it by and wake up.
Your life is here, your life is NOW!!
Go Live it!....
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